Most of the literature pertaining to domestic violence is mostly one sided and slanted on female victims. It has been found through countless studies that females are actually more likely to instigate violence in relationships and more likely to use aggression when attempting to gain control of the relationship and will use threats to try to dominate their male partners. They don’t see men as humans worthy of love, respect, dignity and kindness but rather sexual and monetary objects to be exploited and manipulated for their own selfish gain.
Female abusers are often immediately labeled the “victim” and their crimes are overlooked and they get away with more aggression than males because most often responding officers to domestic disturbances are male and have been indoctrinated by ignorance, myth and inaccurate training mandates to “save the princess” from the “evil man”.
Most of the time the male will get arrested even when its clear that the female is the violent instigator. This can ruin that man’s life because he is now judged for being in handcuffs and having to potentially deal with a criminal record while his abuser is free in society to keep trying to use violence and manipulate others to use violence against him.
A campaign of harassment is waged and very few can actually see what is really going on and the few that do rarely have the courage to intervene and help. When a woman is in trouble many flock to help but for a man this is often not the situation. This can lead the man to feel very isolated, paranoid, not taken seriously and ostracized.
He will have trouble sleeping, lose trust in people and become paranoid and suspicious. This is because female abusers are notorious for manipulating men to hurt other men so they are always having to look over their shoulder to see which direction the next manipulated man is coming from that has been fed lies and is now hell bent on trying to hurt him in order to impress the violent woman to try to gain sex and approval from her.
This leads to a very stressful, survival oriented existence where men are looking to accept a female’s lies in order to potentially gain sex from her in the future. A violent female abuser can literally use her body to have men assaulted, harassed and murdered. It is up to all of us to be on the lookout for this type of behaviour from both men and women equally.
Many aggressive woman will actually hurt themselves and then blame the man they are angry with or are trying to control. They will also threaten to call the police with a fabricated story with self inflicted injuries and dangle that over his head to gain control. They will also threaten to have a divorce or threaten to take the children away and fight a protracted court battle.
Violent women will also threaten to kill the man as he is trying to fall asleep and kick and shove him every times he falls asleep in order to keep him sleep deprived and in a bad mood.
They will try to manipulate every one and everything like brats if they don’t get their way and will even have temper tantrums and start screaming at the top of their lungs and act out of control and start crying. As a man that has only had intimate relationships with women this is my story.